MisterPaternal

This is very good advice, especially for those dealing with littles and middles, as well as for relationships in general.

I agree with the first half of what lillizzie said. However, I would argue that a good caregiver would not intentionally neglect your feelings. Don’t forget that caregivers are people too. They have lives as well. Some of them work. So while it’s possible that your feelings are being neglected, in the sense of you feeling ignored, it’s also possible that the caregiver is simply tied up with his or her own life and will give you attention when able. Bfore you go pouting about how that’s unfair and about what a caregiver is supposed to do, remember that a caregiver is there to care for you. That doesn’t make the person your emotional servant. A caregiver also has to see to his or her own needs, whatever those needs may be. That said, clear, open and honest communication between both individuals is an absolute necessity. I don’t know OP’s situation, but I felt that this perspective needed to be added. Finally, just keep in mind that ‘always’ and ‘never’ are two of the most potent absolutes. I would refrain from using them - as well as other absolutes - unless the word in question (such as ‘never’) is one that you are 100% cannot be disproven at all. This post is not meant as a rant or an attack and I sincerely hope it is not seen that way. I truly hope others who read this will be able to take away something useful for their own interactions.

I’m surprised that Amazon isn’t on this list.

Then it’s up to those of us who are around here to breathe some life into this place. 🙂

It’s probably best not to focus on ddlg *in* movies, but rather to find movies that you find relatable to your particular ddlg dynamic. And since every dynamic is different, it’s unlikely that any two people will come up with the same suggestions. I would say the movies (or music, shows, etc) should be generally age appropriate to the non-rl age of the little/middle/big, as opposed to more of a one-size-fits-all approach.

I bet that outfit looks even cuter when it’s actually on you.

I second this.

Those pjs look like they were made for you.

Everything you just said here should be mentioned to your partner. If he truly doesn’t have time to speak with you in person most days, then send him a text or email (whatever he’ll respond to) and ask that he carve out some time to meet with you to discuss some concerns you have with your dynamic. If he makes the time, lay out for him what you described above and explain why your concerns matter to him as well as to you. If he can’t or won’t make time for you, you may need to consider what’s truly important to you. Will you give him a specific period of time to try and meet with you? Or will the lack of a meeting be the final straw? I cannot and will not tell you how to handle your relationship with this person. All I can do is offer some basic advice as a neutral party. I hope you succeed in working this out.

I would be happy to discuss this with you. Feel free to send me a message any time.

You’re very welcome, tilly.

Cream: -“I’m So Glad” -“I Feel Free” Not-quite-raunchy Irish Rovers: -“Black Velvet Band” -“Star of the County Down” Most of these are on the raunchier side and may be better for middles than littles. Warrant: “Cherry Pie” Def Leppard: “Pour Some Sugar on Me” Robert Palmer: “Addicted to Love” Britney Spears: “…Baby One More Time”

As far as role playing - as opposed to wargaming style ttrpgs - Legend of the Five Rings (the old AEG material) is a really cool setting if you’re interested in more than hack-slash-loot. It has some excellent mechanics for courtly intrigue, personal honor, social standing, etc.

Ddlg should be an extension of your relationship/dynamic, not the core of it. If he can’t be the man you need and want, and you can’t be the woman he needs and wants, then it doesn’t matter how the relationship is packaged. A relationship is a two way street. I know it sounds obvious, but a lot of people overlook that part.

Just tell him. Don’t make it more complicated than it has to be. A good daddy will listen patiently and won’t judge you ahead of time.

Ooh. We should definitely talk. I look forward to hearing from you.

I’m trying to use the site, kitty. But people need time to respond. And some of them, as you correctly pointed out, have been away for a year or more. So it looks like we need to bring some activity back to this place.

If you’re still looking I’d be happy to talk with you about what you may or may not be looking for.

Well you certain have my attention. Feel free to send me a message and we can talk specifics.

I find that a lot of community sites tend to go through busy/quiet cycles, unless they have a very active and engaged staff.

Let’s talk if you’re still looking. And if not, you’re still welcome to talk to me.

You make a perfect pair. 🙂

If you still need this sort of structure you’re welcome to message me.

Feel free to drop me a message any time. You strike me as a reasonable, decent human.

Too many possible answers. Maybe the person sending the text… …changed his/her mind and didn’t have the courage to say it …physically lost the phone and no longer was able to text the other person …sent the text as some kind of dare or prank, without actually considering what impact it might have on the other person. I’m sure I could think of other possibilities, but these are the three that sprang to mind after reading your question.