Emotions

[MNM]

How to deal with feeling neglected from caregiver? It makes me relive the neglect from a child and makes it feel so much worse 

[lillizzie]

if u feel neglected by your caregiver talk to them maybe they dont realize. If it continues u need a different one. A real caregiver cares about your feelings and would never neglect

[Anglice]

On 9/14/2023 at 4:59 AM, MNM said:

How to deal with feeling neglected from caregiver? It makes me relive the neglect from a child and makes it feel so much worse 

Until today, I failed to meet a pure heart caregiver. People pretend about themselves much than they are. So, talk with him and of he still negligent you, then protect yourself, break up and move on. A caregiver can never negligent. It's not your fault. Your friends are with you.

[MisterPaternal]

On 3/22/2024 at 5:58 PM, lillizzie said:

if u feel neglected by your caregiver talk to them maybe they dont realize. If it continues u need a different one. A real caregiver cares about your feelings and would never neglect

I agree with the first half of what lillizzie said.

However, I would argue that a good caregiver would not intentionally neglect your feelings. Don’t forget that caregivers are people too. They have lives as well. Some of them work. So while it’s possible that your feelings are being neglected, in the sense of you feeling ignored, it’s also possible that the caregiver is simply tied up with his or her own life and will give you attention when able.

Bfore you go pouting about how that’s unfair and about what a caregiver is supposed to do, remember that a caregiver is there to care for you. That doesn’t make the person your emotional servant. A caregiver also has to see to his or her own needs, whatever those needs may be. That said, clear, open and honest communication between both individuals is an absolute necessity.

I don’t know OP’s situation, but I felt that this perspective needed to be added.
 

Finally, just keep in mind that ‘always’ and ‘never’ are two of the most potent absolutes. I would refrain from using them - as well as other absolutes - unless the word in question (such as ‘never’) is one that you are 100% cannot be disproven at all.

This post is not meant as a rant or an attack and I sincerely hope it is not seen that way. I truly hope others who read this will be able to take away something useful for their own interactions.