New to DDLG, I want to be a good caregiver!

[PNW-GentleDaddy]

As the title states, I want to be a good, no, GREAT caregiver.

I am this way naturally, my intention that is, my heart's dynamic / desire, is to give and to love and protect. That said, I have never been in a DDLG relationship. I have only dated within my own age bracket and I feel that my previous relationships where typical, just part of the social construct's refection or projection of what a relationship SHOULD be. Like most of these relationships, they fail. They fail fast and hard while costing lots and lots of money, time, and heartache. I know because I followed the same path that was laid before me without even know I was on auto pilot. Stupid me can be so naive and arrogant and yea, just thinking I'm doing right when I am only doing what I had been told. 

Life is a bit different for me now. I intentionally abandoned the previous life, lifestyle, ALL of the people, and had to take time for my own well being. I keep myself isolated because the world is insane and there are shitty people out there who look for others with the intention to get something out of it, whatever that is. And tbh I never seen life like that, till I lived that life. I was 100% ignorant that perspective lens existed. What I mean is, we all live our own life, but till you have lived it and then reflect on it, you will remain ignorant of the program, your own program, and the automatic construct that is driven by the ego. 

Looking back, I was a different person, I was not the real me, but the me that was born into a world that told me what to be, what to do, what to believe. 

If I am going to move forward in my own life here, personal relationships, I chose to do so with the awareness and intention of being aware, so I can make better decisions. The first several parts I have already been undertaking for the past decade. I am now ready for this current part, reflecting in my own personal relationships. I want to walk forward into a relationship knowing my partner, who she, yes she because if there was any confusion, I am a he, hehe lol . . . I want to know my partner, who she really is, and what her needs are. I am now aware of my own needs, and identity, though I will always admit there is more to learn and explore and I need only ask to do so. 

So, In the DDLG dynamic, what is a caregiver ? and does this definition change or shift depending on who I am asking ? 

I ask because, I mean I could and will, use wiki, a dictionary, google - naa fuck google I will use duckduckgo quack quack, but yea asking here because I don't think stupid questions exist, only stupid people lol - people who don't ask the question never find out so they remain ignorant, so yea, always ask the stupid question! I am rambling here aren't I?

So to be serious again, How do YOU define caregiver, and what roles does this person take on? How can I be a bad caregiver? I know that one may seem like, well dah, you just like don't do bad stuff dah . . . but define it, I want to know what others think and feel about this role. 

I feel it is important to know what you think and feel, and I consider that very much, and am appreciative of your time and effort in writing a proper reply. Honestly, and I hope my messaging gives you a chuckle every now and then. 

So is being a caregiver any different than "being a man in a relationship with a woman, where you end up living together in a few years and yea, life goes on" ? I feel if I don;t ask these things, I will not understand the boundaries and thus could not simply respect my littles space and her presence fully. I want to deeply understand the needs and roles and responsibilities in the sense of this specific dynamic, else I just couldn't be a good daddy.

And that is my last question here, is a daddy the same as a caregiver? If it if not the same, or maybe it is in some ways, if it is different in some ways, how is it different? 

Thanks!