⁠✿22F Little/abdl in NY Looking for Forever LTR Daddy✿

[AltLofiSparks]

Name: Ren

Age: 22

Role: Little/sub/abdl

Little Age: 2

Location: Upstate New York

Sexuality: Demisexual/pansexual 

Mono/poly: Monogamous 

Age Range Preferred: 22-40

Looking For: Daddy/Dom

Location Preferred: USA/Canada (States close to NY preferred but isn't a deal breaker if not.)

About Me.

Hi! My name is Ren and I'm a hairstylist/Barber living in NY. I've been within this community since my teens though I've actually finally made the decision to put myself out there and go for a relationship I truly want. When it comes to having a partner who is also part of this community I have no experience in, I'm used to vanilla relationships and could never reach the fulfillment I'd want in them. It always felt like a part of me was missing and it was. I'm the kind of person that already knows what I want in a relationship right from the get go. I don't typically like surprises, I'd like to get to know someone rather than jump into things and making big decisions.

Despite my job I am introverted, I don't like socializing or being in crowded places. It gives me heaps of anxiety and I get overstimulated very easily especially because my own job requires so much of it already. But that doesn't mean that I won't go out to have a good time, it's just on a timer or on certain days I'm just too drained to ever want to go out.

I used to go to the gym 5 days a week for 2 hours a day for weight training to help myself get back into shape, I miss it except for days when its packed. But because of how demanding my job has gotten it had gone from 5 days, to 3, to none at all and only strict calorie deficit and intermediate fasting. I don't eat that well. I don't eat as much as I'd like to anymore before I started all of this, I get full too quickly and my taste buds have changed so I'm more picky and texture sensitive to food haha. 

I am AFAB, I consider myself nonbinary and I dress however I feel like except I mostly dress in whats actually appropriate for work. I wear a lot of alternative Gothic style clothing, baggy clothes, sweatshirts and graphic-ts if I want to dress myself and put in effort into my usual style (if im not working). I wear my homeless colorful hello kitty stuff at home because its my comfy clothes.

Interests and Hobbies.

I used to be a huge foodie, I really loved trying new food and exploring different places to eat. I also enjoy hiking or very long walks. (I'm a city girl so trying to find a trail here is not quite the best. I sometimes walk an hour one way and an hour back or more if it's summer time) I'm also a homebody, I like staying inside to read my books. My favorite genres is fantasy, romance and dark romance, my goal is to be able to build my own library. I also enjoy videogames, I play on my laptop/steam games, and I play on Xbox. I watch anime and mostly keep up on my favorite YouTubers and twitch streamers. I crochet sometimes, mostly plushies or a blanket until my fingers are cramping up. I like to collect Funko pops and figurines,(anime of course). I love a good horror, thriller, mystery, K-dramas, C-dramas, J-dramas, and scifi movies and shows. I'm not one for old shows. My music taste a little variety, except for rap, country, reggae, blues, and jazz. Some rap is actually good I have songs that I like but definitely not one of my top few. I like Rock, EDM, pop and other subgenres, some subgenres actually mix different ones together and its awesome! If you got great music tastes give me your playlist.

What I'm looking for.

I'm someone who holds communication at the highest standpoint, I also am looking for someone who has emotional intelligence or understanding to a degree and not perfection. I don't go based on looks, I go based on what we can bring for each other and what our compatibility is and personality. I want to get to know you first, who you are, what your needs and understand what you want and for you to understand mine and see if we are a match before we ever move on. I don't like rushing things, I don't like being pushed into stuff when I'm not ready. I don't want to be labeled as someones little girl when I just met you barely 3 weeks ago.

A daddy who is soft but knows exactly when to be strict. A bit of both. Now it doesn't have to be exact and not having certain characteristics is a deal breaker this is just what I'm hoping to find in my future Daddy. But certain characteristics are a must for me.

-24/7 ddlg relationship 

-Someone who I can rely on and be able to go to for anything.

-Guide and lead me when I know I can fully trust them with me and not control me. I would be trusting you with close to everything down to making final decisions.

-know and keeps in mind about each other's boundaries and respects them.

-more than willing to hold my hand to navigate this lifestyle with me

-knows how to set rules, willing to train, place in proper punishments. And/or likes routines, everything on a set schedule or some form of schedule.

-Enjoys spending quality time whether it's outings or nights in. Willing to be actively involved when I'm regressed or in my headspace. (Park, library, playtime, homeschooling, snack run, nap time, etc)

-high sex drive, I have a high sex drive and kinda need someone to keep up with that.

-help me have the kind of normal childhood I've missed out on for years and have the relationship I've been wanting to have that can't be fulfilled in a vanilla relationship.

-help me fulfill your needs as a submissive all the while respecting each other's limits. I am open so far to many things, and am open to try new things until I find other limits. 

Deal breakers.

-Having Children. I don't plan, nor will I ever change my mind about having kids in the future. I don't want children of my own or someone else's children or a family. I'm getting my tubes cut and tide hopefully within this year or next year. I'm sorry if you are someone that wants to have kids but I have health issues and have had my own fair share of being around children, from newborns to 5 years old as a daycare teacher for two years before I became a full-time hairdresser. I've made my decision before then that I didn't want any and I still won't ever want them now or later. I'm dead set on it and it won't change.

-Anyone outside the US or Canada. I can't travel that far, I have a hard time trying to travel around here because I don't have a car. My eyesight is terrible and I can't trust myself with one and I'd rather save money with public transportation than add more bills that have to come out of my paycheck. And time difference is not ideal for me and that kind of long distance is too far.

Kinks

(Ease me in at first please, I don't like to be thrown right into stuff like this. Especially with new people. I don't like things to be rough unless I'm ready to start doing that)

Impact play

Orgasm control 

TPE

CNC

Breeding 

Bondage

Cock warming 

Take as you please 

Outside sex

Roleplay 

(Open to trying more)

Limits (as of right now so far from what I can think of at the top of my head. Don't be afraid to go over it with me and ask because I'm tired right now and can't think)

Blood 

Spit (in my mouth or near my face, it grosses me out)

Visible dark bruises, cuts, marks of any kind. (Unless it's redness from impact play and a bit of swelling that will go down.) 

(Open to explore but new limits will be made based on experiences)

Don't be afraid to reach out. If you made it this far congratulations and thank you for taking the time to read this. I know I most likely missed some things but if anyone is interested we'd be able to get to know each other more in private dms. 

[AltLofiSparks]

6 hours ago, AltLofiSparks said:

Name: Ren

Age: 22

Role: Little/sub/abdl

Little Age: 2

Location: Upstate New York

Sexuality: Demisexual/pansexual 

Mono/poly: Monogamous 

Age Range Preferred: 22-40

Looking For: Daddy/Dom

Location Preferred: USA/Canada (States close to NY preferred but isn't a deal breaker if not.)

About Me.

Hi! My name is Ren and I'm a hairstylist/Barber living in NY. I've been within this community since my teens though I've actually finally made the decision to put myself out there and go for a relationship I truly want. When it comes to having a partner who is also part of this community I have no experience in, I'm used to vanilla relationships and could never reach the fulfillment I'd want in them. It always felt like a part of me was missing and it was. I'm the kind of person that already knows what I want in a relationship right from the get go. I don't typically like surprises, I'd like to get to know someone rather than jump into things and making big decisions.

Despite my job I am introverted, I don't like socializing or being in crowded places. It gives me heaps of anxiety and I get overstimulated very easily especially because my own job requires so much of it already. But that doesn't mean that I won't go out to have a good time, it's just on a timer or on certain days I'm just too drained to ever want to go out.

I used to go to the gym 5 days a week for 2 hours a day for weight training to help myself get back into shape, I miss it except for days when its packed. But because of how demanding my job has gotten it had gone from 5 days, to 3, to none at all and only strict calorie deficit and intermediate fasting. I don't eat that well. I don't eat as much as I'd like to anymore before I started all of this, I get full too quickly and my taste buds have changed so I'm more picky and texture sensitive to food haha. 

I am AFAB, I consider myself nonbinary and I dress however I feel like except I mostly dress in whats actually appropriate for work. I wear a lot of alternative Gothic style clothing, baggy clothes, sweatshirts and graphic-ts if I want to dress myself and put in effort into my usual style (if im not working). I wear my homeless colorful hello kitty stuff at home because its my comfy clothes.

Interests and Hobbies.

I used to be a huge foodie, I really loved trying new food and exploring different places to eat. I also enjoy hiking or very long walks. (I'm a city girl so trying to find a trail here is not quite the best. I sometimes walk an hour one way and an hour back or more if it's summer time) I'm also a homebody, I like staying inside to read my books. My favorite genres is fantasy, romance and dark romance, my goal is to be able to build my own library. I also enjoy videogames, I play on my laptop/steam games, and I play on Xbox. I watch anime and mostly keep up on my favorite YouTubers and twitch streamers. I crochet sometimes, mostly plushies or a blanket until my fingers are cramping up. I like to collect Funko pops and figurines,(anime of course). I love a good horror, thriller, mystery, K-dramas, C-dramas, J-dramas, and scifi movies and shows. I'm not one for old shows. My music taste a little variety, except for rap, country, reggae, blues, and jazz. Some rap is actually good I have songs that I like but definitely not one of my top few. I like Rock, EDM, pop and other subgenres, some subgenres actually mix different ones together and its awesome! If you got great music tastes give me your playlist.

What I'm looking for.

I'm someone who holds communication at the highest standpoint, I also am looking for someone who has emotional intelligence or understanding to a degree and not perfection. I don't go based on looks, I go based on what we can bring for each other and what our compatibility is and personality. I want to get to know you first, who you are, what your needs and understand what you want and for you to understand mine and see if we are a match before we ever move on. I don't like rushing things, I don't like being pushed into stuff when I'm not ready. I don't want to be labeled as someones little girl when I just met you barely 3 weeks ago.

A daddy who is soft but knows exactly when to be strict. A bit of both. Now it doesn't have to be exact and not having certain characteristics is a deal breaker this is just what I'm hoping to find in my future Daddy. But certain characteristics are a must for me.

-24/7 ddlg relationship 

-Someone who I can rely on and be able to go to for anything.

-Guide and lead me when I know I can fully trust them with me and not control me. I would be trusting you with close to everything down to making final decisions.

-know and keeps in mind about each other's boundaries and respects them.

-more than willing to hold my hand to navigate this lifestyle with me

-knows how to set rules, willing to train, place in proper punishments. And/or likes routines, everything on a set schedule or some form of schedule.

-Enjoys spending quality time whether it's outings or nights in. Willing to be actively involved when I'm regressed or in my headspace. (Park, library, playtime, homeschooling, snack run, nap time, etc)

-high sex drive, I have a high sex drive and kinda need someone to keep up with that.

-help me have the kind of normal childhood I've missed out on for years and have the relationship I've been wanting to have that can't be fulfilled in a vanilla relationship.

-help me fulfill your needs as a submissive all the while respecting each other's limits. I am open so far to many things, and am open to try new things until I find other limits. 

Deal breakers.

-Having Children. I don't plan, nor will I ever change my mind about having kids in the future. I don't want children of my own or someone else's children or a family. I'm getting my tubes cut and tide hopefully within this year or next year. I'm sorry if you are someone that wants to have kids but I have health issues and have had my own fair share of being around children, from newborns to 5 years old as a daycare teacher for two years before I became a full-time hairdresser. I've made my decision before then that I didn't want any and I still won't ever want them now or later. I'm dead set on it and it won't change.

-Anyone outside the US or Canada. I can't travel that far, I have a hard time trying to travel around here because I don't have a car. My eyesight is terrible and I can't trust myself with one and I'd rather save money with public transportation than add more bills that have to come out of my paycheck. And time difference is not ideal for me and that kind of long distance is too far.

Kinks

(Ease me in at first please, I don't like to be thrown right into stuff like this. Especially with new people. I don't like things to be rough unless I'm ready to start doing that)

Impact play

Orgasm control 

TPE

CNC

Breeding 

Bondage

Cock warming 

Take as you please 

Outside sex

Roleplay 

(Open to trying more)

Limits (as of right now so far from what I can think of at the top of my head. Don't be afraid to go over it with me and ask because I'm tired right now and can't think)

Blood 

Spit (in my mouth or near my face, it grosses me out)

Visible dark bruises, cuts, marks of any kind. (Unless it's redness from impact play and a bit of swelling that will go down.) 

(Open to explore but new limits will be made based on experiences)

Don't be afraid to reach out. If you made it this far congratulations and thank you for taking the time to read this. I know I most likely missed some things but if anyone is interested we'd be able to get to know each other more in private dms. 

Edit: The list of characteristics or things I'd like are not deal breakers, but are definitely something I consider important for me in what I'm looking for in a daddy. No one is perfect and can't have every single trait or be able to do every single thing. But having some of those is definitely a must for me.

(I don't know why it says it "is"  a deal breaker. I must've typed so fast and been so tired that I spelled it wrong and it autocorrected itself to "is" instead of "isn't" because I only have two major deal breakers. I can't edit it so this is here for that.