Using names in introductions

[dakota138]

Before I get started saying my peace, I'm not going to point anyone out and this is just my personal opinion.

 

DDLG is intended to be a closely knit relationship. A daddy who enjoys caring for his little. A little who can give that special kind of affection in return. In its simplest form, I understand that there are for more ranges to the dynamic. My point is the following. Calling yourself daddy, master, papa, or whatever else before you get to know the person is absurd. Firstly, you have almost no real information about the person you are interacting with, no matter how great their personal post is. Secondly, you have no rights to say that you are a daddy to them.

Littles often come from troubled experiences and the last thing they need is to feel like you are committing to someone before you actually get to know them. A lot of littles are clingy and quickly grow attachments. When you invoke those titles of dominance or care or affection, it opens the idea of commitment and intention. Do not reply to someone's post saying "daddy messaged you", or "I'm a good daddy for you". Hell no. You are not theirs, you do not belong to them, and I greatly hope they block you immediately. Your intentions are self serving and shameful. You don't have any idea as to their situation or how you fit with them. That's the whole point to getting to know people first, before you commit to any relationship.

Additionally. Saying pet names in the reply is also ridiculous. Even if they claim the name princess for themselves, that in no way gives you any right to call them that. Do not say "Daddy is here princess", or "Your master is waiting for you, little girl". Again, HELL NO. You are not in a relationship, just because you replied.

 

I strongly advise all littles to take safety and precautions against these people who claim to be a daddy or whatever they call themselves. They either don't truly understand what it means, don't care about littles, or have no other interests than themselves. It is appalling to see so many "men" desperate enough that they are willing to take advantage of someone. 

 

Lastly. I mostly aimed this at the dominant partners of this site. However, I feel the same is true for the submissives. Please do not give yourself up so early. Do not allow these predatory men who promise the world to claim you. Make them prove it. See their effort and dedication first. Do they stay when things are hard? Do they fit your needs as a little and as a partner? Do they give you ultimatums or make you feel forced to act outside of your comfort level? Do they make you feel bad for disagreeing? Please ask these hard questions to yourself and determine if they are a right fit for you.

 

All people of this dynamic should have the self respect and dignity they deserve. There should not be repeat offenses or sad stories of "they lied", "they left me", "why did this happen to me again". Please take care of yourselves. Your hearts are worth protecting.