mossypixie

Welcome to the community! 🩷 I hope your experiences within our space is something you enjoy every moment of and you can find everything you are looking for and more ☺️

So- I don’t know what some caregivers do or don’t know so I will speak on my own personal experience with caregivers and what I had to teach them about MY little space. So take all of this with a grain of salt 🧂 little space isn’t what you see online, the sippy cups, the onesies, a mountain of stuffies, the paci, the “little” activities like coloring or putting on that one cartoon you found comfort in back when you were actually a child and not regressed to that mindset its trauma. Little space and age regression is a trauma response and while the above things mentioned are all ways of coping with that trauma they are band aids. Temporary relief from the larger issue. If your little regresses to their little space of course do what you can to make them feel comfortable and if that means giving them a bottle filled with milk or apple juice, changing them into that one super cute onesie, surrounding them in plushies and throwing that huge soft blanket around them and cuddling up to watch Bluey for the 10000 time then do that! But remember too that something triggered that regression at some point you need to have that conversation with them about what triggered them to regress And really listen, the answer might be “nothing” or “I don’t know” and those are valid! Trauma is complex and sometimes you don’t know or you can’t find the words to explain it so the most simple answer is to shrug and say “nothing” that doesn’t mean they don’t want to share or are keeping it from you on purpose sometimes that’s the genuine answer and while it might not help you out as the caregiver per say at least you can take comfort in that you didn’t tigger them, the conversation, the situation, the place. It didn’t trigger them. And maybe one day they can find the words to explain those times if they say something else like “it was too loud” or “you seemed angry” those are also valid, and also don’t make you as the caregiver a bad person. It’s a learning opportunity for you as the caregiver. Now you know whatever situation you were in or place was too loud. Or that perhaps you should be a bit more careful with your tone and how you say certain things. We all grow and learn each and every day. No one is perfect So maybe the caregivers, daddies, doms, whatever you want to call yourselves already know this, but for those who didn’t. I hope you learned something. Be kind, be patient, be understanding. We are all humans

My Name is Tala (some people call me Lala) I’m 20 and I live in the northeastern part of America so winter is most of the year. I am of Egyptian descent but I know every little Arabic and have lived in America my whole life. I am a non-sexual little (and person in general) and my little age is 5. Some of my hobbies are: coloring, reading, writing, hiking, swimming Some things I like are:I have a massive sweet tooth so of course I like sweets of all kinds, soft things, traveling, language learning Some of my favorite things are; Colour(s) : purple, blue, orange Animal(s) : cats + bunnies Food(s) : pasta, pancakes, Drink(s) : coffee, match latte, hot cocoa Sport(s) : ice skating I wish to make a lot of friends and maybe along the way I can find my person, but I know that being patient will be the best way to get what I want 🤭