dakota138

About Me:

I live a structured, active life and enjoy learning new skills and working through complex, practical problems. I am naturally drawn to engineering, coding, and building systems or processes that have clear purpose and outcomes. Problem solving helps me stay grounded and focused.

I stay physically active and work out regularly as part of maintaining discipline and long term health. Outside of training or studying, I enjoy experimenting with technology, building things, and can talk in depth about any of the interests listed on my profile. Weekends are usually a balance of decompressing and staying connected, sometimes social time with others, other times staying in, playing games, or working on a personal project. I am often a black and white, 0 or 100, on or off, type of person. I commit completely when I really want something. Which includes commitment and loyalty to my partner.

Faith is a meaningful part of my life and influences how I think, live, and plan for the future. I value family, stability, and building a relationship meant to last for decades rather than months or years. I do well in relationships built on understanding, mutual trust, and complementary strengths. I am a strong believer in "Let your no be no, and your yes be yes" and "Forgive and forget". In these ways, I often follow through with what I say I will do, and I seek reconciliation quickly.

I am intentional about the life I am building and the partnership I hope to form. I value depth over noise, consistency over chaos, and sincerity over performance. I am the type to pour my heart out onto paper, either with overwhelming adoration or sincere heartfelt expression. I tend to write a lot when out of an overwhelming need to relieve stress. Sometimes that means that I am stressed in a good way, because I am having the time of my life getting to know someone. Sometimes it is overwhelming because I have a lot going on and it is the only way to calm my mind. I'm an INFJ-T type of personality, if that's important to anyone.

I am naturally affectionate and attentive in relationships and prefer to show care in consistent, tangible ways. Seeing my partner smile, laugh, or even give a knowing side eye smirk makes the effort worthwhile. I do well taking initiative and providing structure while still valuing mutual input and trust. I am thoughtful and strategic when it comes to long term planning. Which also often leads to me being patient. While I often give generously and lead in many areas, I also value emotional closeness and reassurance at times. I am most fulfilled in relationships where care, effort, and support flow both ways. I strongly believe in being shelter from the storm. If something comes up, talk to me. If you see a cool dog, I want to hear about the dog. If you have this super niche thing that you are excited about because you love it so much, I WANNA KNOW! I'm a big listener. So having a yappy partner is never an issue.

I have experienced DDLG relationships for about a decade now, so I have had my fair share of experiences (Mostly good, long term ones thankfully). I think there is a time and place for sternness and affection. Same for littles. There's nothing wrong with being bratty one moment to get attention and needing a softer side the next. I am not against playing silly games to see my little smile. I will make up bed time stories until you pass out, and keep talking to make sure you don't wake up for a good while. I do like to stay on the phone in long distance relationships, because it is kind of the only way to have anything like a physical closeness. I very much like to show my appreciation to my little by spending time on their favorite things, memorizing their stuffie names, and spoiling them with the little things they like. I'm also just as happy spending quiet time with just each other's company or have you in my ears when I play a game, just to laugh together over the little commentary.

What I Am Looking For:

General details:

    Ideally within 5 years of my age, but I'm not opposed to outside that range.
    I am only interested in monogamy and have zero considerations for anything else. 
    My intention will always be to have an in person permanent relationship, but I understand that the likelihood of finding that person next door is slim to absolutely none. So long distance isn't out of the question, especially at the beginning when getting to know someone.

I am drawn to a woman who is warm, affectionate, and emotionally present. Physical closeness matters to me, and I value a relationship where touch, presence, and shared quiet moments come naturally. I want a partner that likes doing activities together, whether that is racing each other up a mountain as fast as we can or playing Minecraft for hours just to get the resources necessary to make the particular type of house they might want. I know many people see clinginess as a bad thing, but I whole heartedly disagree. I want someone who wants me just as much as I want them.

I am most compatible with someone who communicates needs directly and constructively. I engage fully when I hear “this would help me” or “I would like this more,” and I disengage when conflicts turn to a screaming match. Loyalty and steadiness matter to me. I believe in staying, even when things are difficult, and working through challenges side by side. I value patience and understanding from my partner, and I strongly believe in giving the same in return. I deeply appreciate effort and intention in everyday little things in life. Cooking or baking for someone carries real meaning for me, not as an expectation or role, but as an act of care and commitment. I value a home atmosphere that feels peaceful, calm, and relational rather than transactional.

I feel most respected and fulfilled in a partnership where asking for help is normal, appreciation is expressed, and both people feel wanted and needed. I lead naturally, but I also value mutual input, reassurance, and emotional closeness. Shared values matter to me, especially around faith, commitment, and long term direction. I am most compatible with someone who encourages growth gently, walks alongside rather than commands, and believes a strong relationship is built through consistency, care, and shared purpose. Guiding with praise and appreciation instead of correcting with demands and resentment. 

Thanks for reading. Hope to hear from you if you see a fit with me.